people want to connect with people who are interesting and positive, who are an asset rather than a burden. Negativity, manifested in a propensity to criticise and complain, serves as one of the strongest signals that you’re likely to be the latter.
Cast your mind back over the last few days. What has been the balance in your conversations between positivity and negativity? How often have you focused on the problem and sought to attribute blame versus being proactive and solution focused? How often have you expressed gratitude or recognised your good fortune as opposed to finding fault and listing what could be better? How often have you used the word ‘but’?